I am interviewing a diverse group of mom’s from all over the country. Each mom will share their unique journey through motherhood. These moms will make you laugh, tear up and most importantly, feel normal(yes, we’ve all cried over spilled (breast/formula) milk). I hope their stories inspire you as much as they’ve inspired me.
Former Division 1 Athlete, NFL Women’s Advocate, Christian + Mom!
Amber is always laughing and smiling and is one of the friendliest people I know. She is the type of mom that makes motherhood look easy, always prepared and willing to help when you need it. After graduating from college she worked in marketing for several years and then transitioned into a nanny role while her husband played in the NFL. She shared a lot of great tips for balancing it all and I know you enjoy her story as much as I did.
MomMode: How many children do you have?
Amber: Two boys, Levi (2 years) + Caleb (6 months)
MomMode: What is your relationship status?
Amber: Happily married for 4 years.
MomMode: Do you work FT, PT or are you a SAHM?
Amber: Both, I work part-time from home for a ministry geared towards professional athletes and their families. I also stay at home with both boys.
MomMode: How did you know you were ready to have your first baby?
Amber: Well, it just happened with my first pregnancy. We were not trying at all but really were not preventing. We were so over joyed and that is when we knew we were ready for kids.
MomMode: Have you ever miscarried? If so, what tips do you have for working through the grief process?
Amber: Yes, my first two pregnancies I miscarried. It was a very hard time because I thought something was wrong with me and that I would never be able to have kids. But my husband and I trusted in the Lord and continued to pray. My third pregnancy we had our sweet Levi. What really got us through it was our trust in the Lord for each day. I constantly relied on Him for comfort and peace. I had to take it one day at a time and me and my husband made sure to be open about what we were feeling and not let our emotions build up alone.
MomMode: How do you balance motherhood, your marriage, working and “me” time?
Amber: My kids are on a schedule and that helps balance a lot. Because I know their schedule I can plan things out better. During their naps is when I get a lot of work done around the house. Also, I put in some “me” time to just sit and read or watch TV. Because my kids have a set bedtime once they are sleep my husband I usually use that time to watch a movie or play a game. My husband and I try to have at least one date night a week where we are not allowed to talk about the kids. It sounds mean but we found that most of our conversations at dinner were about the funny things they do! We should be using that time to talk about our goals, dreams, and desires.
MomMode: How did you decide between being a working mom or SAHM?
Amber: When I was working full time in Charlotte I would get home late and would work when I got home. I knew that I could not be the kind of mom I wanted to be working as much as I did. So I am thankful the Lord has provided enough for us that I am able to stay at home. I took on the part time job because after being a wife of a NFL player I have such a heart for the women of the NFL so I don’t see my role as a job but more of a passion that I am blessed to call work.
MomMode: What is the hardest part about being a mom?
Amber: My freedom to get up and go without question. Now my husband and I have to think about, do we need a sitter, is the diaper bag fully packed, do we have enough snacks and toys in case of a melt down, do we have his cup, what about a change of clothes. I find myself packing the car 15 min before I really need to leave in order to be on time.
MomMode: What do you love most about being a mom?
Amber: Everything my boys brighten my day and no matter how much they may get on my nerves or how little they slept the night before my love for them never changes. I love watching them discover new things and their curiosity. Every milestone is a joy to see and celebrate with them.
MomMode: Spill the beans…what is your best mom hack?
Amber: My best mom hack would be with two boys in diapers I bought individual pouches for each of them at Pottery Barn with their names on them. I stuff all their extra clothes, diapers and creams that I need when leaving the house. That way when I go into my diaper bag it is a lot more organized and all I have to do is pull out their pouch to get what they need.
MomMode: Is there anything else you want to share?
Amber: One thing that really helps me get through my day is in the morning I find a scripture to lean on for the day. So when my patience is tested or I am so tired I say that scripture to myself and what it means to me as the daughter of a God who loves me. It really helps put things in perspective and helps me to continue on.
A special thanks to Amber for sharing her journey with us! For more mommy interviews and tips on how to navigate mom life click here.