I am interviewing a diverse group of mom’s from all over the country. Each mom will share their unique journey through motherhood. These moms will make you laugh, tear up and most importantly, feel normal(yes, we’ve all cried over spilled (breast/formula) milk). I hope their stories inspire you as much as they’ve inspired me.
Arizonian, Military Veteran, Behavioral Health Specialist, Master’s Student & Mom!
Sarah is a literal superwoman, a high achiever with a heart of gold. She has been giving back to her community and country as long as I’ve known her. After she received her bachelors degree, she was commissioned as a Second Lieutenant into the Pennsylvania Army National Guard and later deployed to Afghanistan (told you she was superwoman). Currently, she is working as a Case Manager for children in need of behavioral health services. She is an aspiring Therapist and is currently working on her Masters degree. I hope you enjoy reading about her journey through motherhood.
MomMode: How many children do you have?
Sarah: I have one beautiful 6 month old daughter but plan to have another child in the next 2-2.5 years.
MomMode: What is your relationship status?
Sarah: I am happily married.
MomMode: What is your work status, FT, PT or SAHM?
Sarah: Since having my daughter, I decided to work with my agency on a part time basis.
MomMode: How did you know you were ready to have your first baby?
Sarah: I knew that I always wanted to be a mother but I understood that once I had a baby, things would change and that I would be responsible for another human being. At the time we decided to “see what happens”, I knew I was in a position in my life that I could become a mother and be able to put someone before myself for the rest of my life. I also knew I was ready because I knew I found the person that I could trust and love for the rest of my life, my husband. I couldn’t picture someone else being the father of my child and he was also in a position where he felt comfortable to expand our family. We decided to “see what happens” and were blessed.
MomMode: What is the hardest part about being a mom?
Sarah: I am not sure if it has to do with my job or not but I have become very anxious which I feel has become a hard part of being a mom because I am learning how to manage it. I know that I will always protect my child and always put her first and do what is best for her but I cannot help but to feel scared for her and for the world that we do live in. I fear that I will be so fearful about everything that I won’t let her have experiences.
MomMode: What do you love most about being a mom?
Sarah: I love watching her change and grow. I love seeing her expressions when she experiences something new like food. I love teaching her new things and experiencing her first times together as a family. I love how much she needs me. She makes me feel so needed and wanted. She melts my heart with her smile.
MomMode: How do you balance motherhood, marriage, working, “me” time?
Sarah: I think that is a process that I am still learning and a process that is still changing. My role as a mother is what I consider my main role. My part time job now is what I consider my “me” time, a chance to be an adult and have adult interaction. We are lucky to have my stepmother living close by. She is wonderful and watches my daughter while I work and will give my husband and I a chance to go out and spend time with each other. My husband and I will take a date night at least once a month. Right now, we do everything together as a family, which I honestly feel strengthens our relationship and our marriage. Watching my husband be a father just makes me love him even more.
MomMode: How did you decide between being a working mom or SAHM?
Sarah: Initially, I was planning on being a stay at home mother. When I came off maternity leave, I handed in my two weeks notice. As the time got near for me to depart, my job offered me a part time position and pretty much let me decided what it was I wanted to do with my time. I thought that this would be an opportunity that I would not have again so I decided to take it while they were offering.
MomMode: What tips do you have for navigating maternity leave & going back to work?
Sarah: Take as much maternity leave as you can, especially if you are breastfeeding. Most mothers tend to give up on breastfeeding once they return to work because of not really having that time to pump, etc. The longer you can breastfeed (of course in my opinion) the better. I also understand that some woman cannot breastfeed or chose not to which is totally okay to. Take this time to bond with your baby. Going back to work was difficult but I think it is harder for you then it actually is for the baby. I spent a lot of the first few days talking about my daughter with other co workers which seemed to help. I had pictures that I looked at while I was pumping and recorded videos that reminded me of the time we had spent with each other on maternity leave.
MomMode: Spill the beans…what is your best mom hack?
Sarah: I put coconut oil in her bath so that I don’t have to necessarily apply lotion after the bath. I always put the new diaper under the old diaper so if she decides she wants to pee, there’s a diaper there to catch it.
A special thanks to Sarah for sharing her journey with us! For more mommy interviews and tips on how to navigate mom life click here.